My wife has an other angle, we have a 60 year old fishing
resort that needs constant updating. We have an "Honey Do" list and
every time I get close to the end of it she adds new items to
it. Different strokes for different folks!!
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Subject: [FlyRotary]
Re: Bernie wants to bat for the other team...
> However, I know that if I put a lyc in my plane now
she would STILL be
> reticent to fly with me. I love aviation, and she
does not. Changing
> to a lyc is not going to change that for us.
David, I get the same song and dance when I ask my wife to
help me build
She complains that I don't spend any time with
her. She wants me to sit
with her in front of a TV as my brains dribble out my
ears, instead. So
I turn it around and start complaining that she won't
spend any time
with ME. Then the excuses
start. It's too hot. It's noisy. It's
smelly. It's boring. Now, it's too
cold. She'll occasionally spend
maybe 10 minutes with me, but she never complains about me
not spending
I occasionaly hear builders talking about giving up
because of family
pressure. It hurts to hear, because 'the
project' isn't the issue and
giving it up won't change anything. The issue
is that the builder is
just that...a builder. They will all have to
build something or be
miserable. I've talked to at least a couple
builder's who gave up a
project to save a marriage. They eventually got
divorced anyway, and
one is now flying a Pietenpol he built after splitting up.
Then there is the issue that whatever they build, be it
airplanes or
furniture, won't look store-bought, and a lot of people
will turn their
nose up at it. (How did America get to this
ridiculous state of
affairs?) My wife complains that she doesn't like the
steel tubes
showing in the cockpit. She want's it to look
more 'classy'. I ask her
for a design drawing. Her response is, "I
don't know how. It's your
project." If you are so offended by a few
structural elements showing
through, either lend a hand, offer a solution
or don't fly with me.
Just don't ask me to perform a miracle before the next
reality TV show airs.
My point is that as we build our airplanes and engines,
we're also
building relationships, and it's compromises, compromises,
compromises
all the way around. We've got to give some
credence to the family
voices, but how much is a balancing act. I do
watch movies with the
family fairly often, but I can't stand more than about
10min of most TV
before the revulsion gets too strong;
however, I won't change my
project design because SHE thinks its 'ugly' or
'unsafe'. I'm already
making it as beautiful, comfortable and safe as my
skillset, budget and
learning ability will allow. That's who I am
and what I am, and if
that's not good enough then why are we together in the
first place. I
think Dawn respects that, but I'm probably headed straight
for divorce
court and don't even know it.
"If you loved me, you'd spend more time with
me." Practice that and see
how it changes their outlook on your project.
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Ernest Christley |
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