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My wife has an other angle, we have a 60 year old fishing resort that needs constant updating. We have an "Honey Do" list and every time I get close to the end of it she adds new items to it. Different strokes for different folks!!
Georges B.
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Date: 02/16/06 09:17:28
Subject: [FlyRotary] Re: Bernie wants to bat for the other team...
David Leonard wrote:
> However, I know that if I put a lyc in my plane now she would STILL be
> reticent to fly with me. I love aviation, and she does not. Changing
> to a lyc is not going to change that for us.
David, I get the same song and dance when I ask my wife to help me build
this thing.
She complains that I don't spend any time with her. She wants me to sit
with her in front of a TV as my brains dribble out my ears, instead. So
I turn it around and start complaining that she won't spend any time
with ME. Then the excuses start. It's too hot. It's noisy. It's
smelly. It's boring. Now, it's too cold. She'll occasionally spend
maybe 10 minutes with me, but she never complains about me not spending
time with her any more.
I occasionaly hear builders talking about giving up because of family
pressure. It hurts to hear, because 'the project' isn't the issue and
giving it up won't change anything. The issue is that the builder is
just that...a builder. They will all have to build something or be
miserable. I've talked to at least a couple builder's who gave up a
project to save a marriage. They eventually got divorced anyway, and
one is now flying a Pietenpol he built after splitting up.
Then there is the issue that whatever they build, be it airplanes or
furniture, won't look store-bought, and a lot of people will turn their
nose up at it. (How did America get to this ridiculous state of
affairs?) My wife complains that she doesn't like the steel tubes
showing in the cockpit. She want's it to look more 'classy'. I ask her
for a design drawing. Her response is, "I don't know how. It's your
project." If you are so offended by a few structural elements showing
through, either lend a hand, offer a solution or don't fly with me.
Just don't ask me to perform a miracle before the next reality TV show airs.
My point is that as we build our airplanes and engines, we're also
building relationships, and it's compromises, compromises, compromises
all the way around. We've got to give some credence to the family
voices, but how much is a balancing act. I do watch movies with the
family fairly often, but I can't stand more than about 10min of most TV
before the revulsion gets too strong; however, I won't change my
project design because SHE thinks its 'ugly' or 'unsafe'. I'm already
making it as beautiful, comfortable and safe as my skillset, budget and
learning ability will allow. That's who I am and what I am, and if
that's not good enough then why are we together in the first place. I
think Dawn respects that, but I'm probably headed straight for divorce
court and don't even know it.
"If you loved me, you'd spend more time with me." Practice that and see
how it changes their outlook on your project.
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