X-Virus-Scanned: clean according to Sophos on Logan.com Return-Path: Received: from mail.lincsatmail.com ([207.179.143.254] verified) by logan.com (CommuniGate Pro SMTP 5.0.8) with ESMTP id 987520 for flyrotary@lancaironline.net; Thu, 16 Feb 2006 12:34:51 -0500 Received-SPF: neutral receiver=logan.com; client-ip=207.179.143.254; envelope-from=echolakeresort@telus.net Received: from echolake-cc8a26 ([204.101.233.220]) (authenticated bits=0) by mail.lincsatmail.com (8.12.10/8.12.10) with ESMTP id k1GHXqDC028464 for ; Thu, 16 Feb 2006 13:33:56 -0400 MIME-Version: 1.0 Message-Id: <43F4B779.000001.03948@ECHOLAKE-CC8A26> Date: Thu, 16 Feb 2006 09:33:45 -0800 (Pacific Standard Time) Content-Type: Multipart/Alternative; boundary="------------Boundary-00=_9GJSQL80000000000000" X-Mailer: IncrediMail (4502089) From: "Echo Lake Fishing Resort (Georges Boucher)" References: To: "Rotary motors in aircraft" Subject: Re: [FlyRotary] Re: Bernie wants to bat for the other team... X-FID: FLAVOR00-NONE-0000-0000-000000000000 X-Priority: 3 --------------Boundary-00=_9GJSQL80000000000000 Content-Type: Text/Plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable My wife has an other angle, we have a 60 year old fishing resort that nee= ds constant updating. We have an "Honey Do" list and every time I get close = to the end of it she adds new items to it. Different strokes for different folks!!=0D Georges B. =0D =0D -------Original Message-------=0D =0D From: Ernest Christley=0D Date: 02/16/06 09:17:28=0D To: Rotary motors in aircraft=0D Subject: [FlyRotary] Re: Bernie wants to bat for the other team...=0D =0D David Leonard wrote:=0D =0D > However, I know that if I put a lyc in my plane now she would STILL be=0D > reticent to fly with me. I love aviation, and she does not. Changing=0D > to a lyc is not going to change that for us.=0D =0D David, I get the same song and dance when I ask my wife to help me build=0D this thing.=0D =0D She complains that I don't spend any time with her. She wants me to sit=0D with her in front of a TV as my brains dribble out my ears, instead. So=0D I turn it around and start complaining that she won't spend any time=0D with ME. Then the excuses start. It's too hot. It's noisy. It's=0D smelly. It's boring. Now, it's too cold. She'll occasionally spend=0D maybe 10 minutes with me, but she never complains about me not spending=0D time with her any more.=0D =0D I occasionaly hear builders talking about giving up because of family=0D pressure. It hurts to hear, because 'the project' isn't the issue and=0D giving it up won't change anything. The issue is that the builder is=0D just that...a builder. They will all have to build something or be=0D miserable. I've talked to at least a couple builder's who gave up a=0D project to save a marriage. They eventually got divorced anyway, and=0D one is now flying a Pietenpol he built after splitting up.=0D =0D Then there is the issue that whatever they build, be it airplanes or=0D furniture, won't look store-bought, and a lot of people will turn their=0D nose up at it. (How did America get to this ridiculous state of=0D affairs?) My wife complains that she doesn't like the steel tubes=0D showing in the cockpit. She want's it to look more 'classy'. I ask her=0D for a design drawing. Her response is, "I don't know how. It's your=0D project." If you are so offended by a few structural elements showing=0D through, either lend a hand, offer a solution or don't fly with me.=0D Just don't ask me to perform a miracle before the next reality TV show ai= rs.=0D =0D My point is that as we build our airplanes and engines, we're also=0D building relationships, and it's compromises, compromises, compromises=0D all the way around. We've got to give some credence to the family=0D voices, but how much is a balancing act. I do watch movies with the=0D family fairly often, but I can't stand more than about 10min of most TV=0D before the revulsion gets too strong; however, I won't change my=0D project design because SHE thinks its 'ugly' or 'unsafe'. I'm already=0D making it as beautiful, comfortable and safe as my skillset, budget and=0D learning ability will allow. That's who I am and what I am, and if=0D that's not good enough then why are we together in the first place. I=0D think Dawn respects that, but I'm probably headed straight for divorce=0D court and don't even know it.=0D =0D "If you loved me, you'd spend more time with me." Practice that and see=0D how it changes their outlook on your project.=0D =0D --=0D ,|"|"|, Ernest Christley |=0D ----=3D=3D=3D<{{(oQo)}}>=3D=3D=3D---- Dyke Delta Builder |=0D o| d |o www.ernest.isa-geek.org |=0D =0D --=0D Homepage: http://www.flyrotary.com/=0D Archive and UnSub: http://mail.lancaironline.net/lists/flyrotary/ --------------Boundary-00=_9GJSQL80000000000000 Content-Type: Text/HTML; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
My wife has an other angle, we have a 60 year old fishing resort tha= t needs constant updating. We have an "Honey Do" list and every time I ge= t close to the end of it she adds new items to it. Different strokes= for different folks!!
Georges B. 
 
-------Original Message-------
 
Date: 02/16/06 09:= 17:28
Subject: [FlyRotar= y] Re: Bernie wants to bat for the other team...
 
David Leonard wrote:
 
> However, I know that if I put a lyc in my plane now she would S= TILL be
> reticent to fly with me. I love aviation, and she does not.&nbs= p; Changing
> to a lyc is not going to change that for us.
 
David, I get the same song and dance when I ask my wife to help me b= uild
this thing.
 
She complains that I don't spend any time with her.  She w= ants me to sit
with her in front of a TV as my brains dribble out my ears, instead.=   So
I turn it around and start complaining that she won't spend any time=
with ME.  Then the excuses start.  It's too hot.=   It's noisy.  It's
smelly.  It's boring.  Now, it's too cold. =  She'll occasionally spend
maybe 10 minutes with me, but she never complains about me not spend= ing
time with her any more.
 
I occasionaly hear builders talking about giving up because of famil= y
pressure.  It hurts to hear, because 'the project' isn't t= he issue and
giving it up won't change anything.  The issue is that the= builder is
just that...a builder.  They will all have to build someth= ing or be
miserable.  I've talked to at least a couple builder's who= gave up a
project to save a marriage.  They eventually got divorced = anyway, and
one is now flying a Pietenpol he built after splitting up.
 
Then there is the issue that whatever they build, be it airplanes or=
furniture, won't look store-bought, and a lot of people will turn th= eir
nose up at it.  (How did America get to this ridiculous st= ate of
affairs?) My wife complains that she doesn't like the steel tubes
showing in the cockpit.  She want's it to look more 'class= y'.  I ask her
for a design drawing.  Her response is, "I don't know how.=   It's your
project."   If you are so offended by a few structural ele= ments showing
through,  either lend a hand, offer a solution or don't fl= y with me.
Just don't ask me to perform a miracle before the next reality TV sh= ow airs.
 
My point is that as we build our airplanes and engines, we're also
building relationships, and it's compromises, compromises, compromis= es
all the way around.  We've got to give some credence to th= e family
voices, but how much is a balancing act.  I do watch movie= s with the
family fairly often, but I can't stand more than about 10min of most= TV
before the revulsion gets too strong;   however, &nbs= p;I won't change my
project design because SHE thinks its 'ugly' or 'unsafe'.  = ;I'm already
making it as beautiful, comfortable and safe as my skillset, budget = and
learning ability will allow.  That's who I am and what I a= m, and if
that's not good enough then why are we together in the first place.&= nbsp;  I
think Dawn respects that, but I'm probably headed straight for divor= ce
court and don't even know it.
 
"If you loved me, you'd spend more time with me."  Practic= e that and see
how it changes their outlook on your project.
 
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        o|  d = ; |o          www.ernest.isa-geek.org &= nbsp;|
 
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