Hi Niel. For the first few years I had a 1/8 hole drilled in a restrictor plate. Later I tried it without any restriction except the distance of -4 hose and a remote oil shut-off valve that provides a little resistance. As long as the return line is adequate, that seems to be the best solution for me.
The outlet of my intercooler does just what you describe. I still think it is a good plan. Fabricated my intercooler mounts from 1/4 inch chromoly tube to put it exactly where I wanted. Same with oil cooler.
Dave Leonard